Helping and being helped: fear and desire - EXPeditions

Helping and being helped: fear and desire

by Adam Phillips
  • Key point 1
    We’re always equally dependent throughout our lives, but in different ways.
  • Key point 2
    Every time I ask somebody for something I’m acknowledging a lack of self-sufficiency, and that means having to face the fact that I need somebody who I can’t control.
  • Key point 3
    Real help is based fundamentally on care for another person, a capacity to make realistic promises and an ability to bear somebody else’s suffering
  • Key point 4
    One of the fundamental questions that helping and being helped raises is, what is power? And how is power going to be used?