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Helping and being helped: fear and desire
by Adam Phillips
About this EXP
Adam Phillips, a child psychotherapist and psychoanalyst, talks about how the idea of helping and being helped permeates our lives and societies.
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Key point 1
We’re always equally dependent throughout our lives, but in different ways.
Key point 2
Every time I ask somebody for something I’m acknowledging a lack of self-sufficiency, and that means having to face the fact that I need somebody who I can’t control.
Key point 3
Real help is based fundamentally on care for another person, a capacity to make realistic promises and an ability to bear somebody else’s suffering
Key point 4
One of the fundamental questions that helping and being helped raises is, what is power? And how is power going to be used?
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